Miss Independent: Ten lessons I have learnt in 10 years since moving out of home

Hey Sweeties,

On this day, 10 years ago it was my first day at dental nurse school at Kings College, London. I was 19 years old and was experiencing living away from home for the first time, having upped sticks and left my family back in Devon.

When I look back, my twenties have been a decade of transition in many areas and in a few months when I celebrate my 30th birthday, I will feel proud for having allowed myself the opportunity, however sad and often lonely it has been, to learn who I really am. I will reflect formally on my twenties on the eve of leaving them behind in a couple of months but until then, my Graduate Experience post (here) will do a good job of covering what I have done/lived/worked etc.

Moving out can be a scary time, particularly if you are moving a fair distance away from your family and friends. For me I have spent much of my life moving around, both with my family and without them so I know exactly how difficult and nerve-wracking it can be. Looking back there are some things I wish I had not experienced, but then again, experiencing them was character building and helped shape future decisions; so I do not live in regret. In this post, I am going to share –

Ten lessons I have learnt in 10 years since moving out of home 

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1. Learn to do things yourself

This seems so obvious but you are on your own now and if you are old enough to do that, you are old enough to take full responsibility for everything. Feeling sick? I am afraid mummy is no longer around to make that call to your boss for you!

2. Everyone needs to experience a nightmare housemate

Yes they do. Before I was able to move out to my own place at university (which was the BEST decision I ever made), house shares are notorious for causing a bit of stress. Ideally, live with friends or at least people you know and trust, but even in the best intentioned arrangements, things can go wrong.

I was good friends with my first set of housemates in my nursing accommodation but within a few months they moved out and it was never quite the same since. It turned into a bit of a living hell to be honest because two friends moved in and they took over and I was trapped in my room every. single. night.

When I lived in Leeds, I first lived in a house share with strangers before a day of horrendous anxiety made me pack up my things and get out pronto (to live with my then boyfriend). The first lot of people were fine, but as the Landlord brought new people in trust went out the window and it was no longer fun. I am thankful I had a plan B, not everyone will be so fortunate so trust your gut in those situations. Also, always ALWAYS have a lock on your bedroom door.

moving out of home

moving out of home

3. Don’t spend every weekend going home

Of course, this depends on how far away you have moved, if you have just moved down the road then it does not matter but if you have moved out to a new area, you need to give yourself a chance at settling in. Devon was at least a three-hour train journey from London back when I lived there and it was not something I could afford to do more than once every couple of months. When I was not visiting my boyfriend I spent my weekends walking up and down Oxford Street, exploring new areas and from time to time, spending the day with one of my new friends. Mostly though, I was having a crash course in learning to be okay on my own and let me assure you, it takes time. Read my post on being your own best friend (here).

 4. Never do your first food shop in one go

 …Unless you have a car. I lived in nursing accommodation in London and we were fortunate that we had a large Sainsbury’s down the road –ideal walking distance but the longest walk of your life if you bought too much! I still remember a woman looking at me in sympathy when I exited the store after my first shop, with my arms and hands ladled with shopping bags; how I got it all back to the flat I do not know.  So just be sensible and maybe split up the shop into two trips.

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 5. Seize opportunities to meet new people

Definitely easier said than done but when an opportunity presents itself, take it. When I first moved out, I assumed all my dental nursing friends would be living in the same accommodation as me, but in reality, they all lived a commutable distance away. London was very lonely for me but in places where I have lived since, I joined the local hockey team or found that my days were very people filled, leaving just the evenings to entertain myself. I am still to this day always seeking out opportunities to meet people but it really is hard.

 6. Be practical about what you take with you

If you do not need to pack everything including the kitchen sink, do not. Box up your entire bedroom if necessary but leave behind the things that are not critical possessions unless you’re moving out to somewhere permanent from the off.  I carried around with me far too much for years, which only grows with every move so be warned!

moving out of home

 7. Budget!

Pay your bills, put some aside for savings, a rainy day etc. and allow yourself some budget to have fun with. Your twenties particularly are about going out and having fun so allocate accordingly.

 8. Pets are great, but they are a tie

My family home growing up was filled with pets so moving out to a flat with no pets was hard, and on so many occasions I nearly bought something out of desperation. But don’t. Enjoy the freedom a pet-free home allows and only when you have properly settled somewhere, and have the time to care for them, should you consider buying a pet.  Do not be like some of the big bloggers and buy a small dog for Instagram, and then travel all the time it is completely not fair.

moving out of home

moving out of home

What I am wearing: Black leggings – Miss Guided; T-shirt – Juicy Couture; Coat – New Look (old); Scarf – ASOS; Backpack – Therapy at House of Fraser

 9. Living alone isn’t for everyone

I am very good at being on my own, loneliness aside I learnt to be great in my own company so when I found an affordable little annex, big enough for one person about halfway through university, it was honestly a dream come true. Living alone might appear to be the dream when you are living in a nightmare house share, it will not be for everyone so just bear that in mind before taking the leap.

 10. Relish your Freedom

It would be wrong to not end on a high note, so all that is remaining to say is to relish the freedom moving out of the family nest brings. It does have its struggles, and there will be times you question why you left the home comforts of mum and dad’s place; and it might get to the end of the month whereby you have to choose between buying dinner or tampons (yes, true story!); but most of all, enjoy the experience independence brings!

 

Are you thinking about moving out of home?

Until next time x

 

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CND Shellac Nails – My Love for Manicures and Pedicures | Valentine’s Day

Hey Sweeties,

Happy Valentine’s Day! I love Valentine’s Day, regardless to whether you are single or coupled up, it’s a day to either show love to someone else, or yourself… or both (I think always do the latter)! In celebration of all things love and beauty, today I wanted to show you guys something I have been enjoying since last April when I got married -CND Shellac manicures and pedicures! I had a Shellac manicure a few years ago just before my holiday to Las Vegas, but I haven’t really had the excuse to treat myself again until my wedding. While it wasn’t something I intended to keep up, I actually have so every month or so I head to my favourite beauty salon in Eton, Bespoke Beauty by Emma Simmons and treat myself to a CND Shellac manicure, and slightly less frequently (because they generally last a lot longer) a CND Shellac pedicure.

CND Shellac Polish

CND Shellac Polish

CND Shellac Polishes – My 2016 Highlights

I had real fun last year with working my way through some of the CND Shellac nail polishes my local beauty salon had, trying to stick to pastel shades over the spring and summer months before going darker as Autumn rolled around. For me I love the variety of shades available and I love the names of the polishes as you will hear in a mo!

CND Shellac Polish

Safety Pin

While I acknowledged I had to play it a little bit cool for my wedding in Apil, partly owing to the big (utterly beautiful) white dress I adorned on the day, I couldn’t resist a bit of sparkle on my nails and I was drawn to the CND Shellac polish in shade Safety Pin almost instantly. The shimmer is quite subtle but it worked so well on the day -who wants to be boring with nude nails huh?!

CND Shellac Polish

Sun Bleached

CND Shellac polish in shade Sun Bleached was an interesting choice but it captured late spring for me in a bottle. Yellow is also my favourite colour as it just makes me smile every time I see it, hence why I totally adore daffodils which also played a key role in my wedding. The only thing I would say against this shade is that your nails do get dirty fairly quickly so while I heartily recommend the shade, I wouldn’t keep it on for longer than a week or so but of course, that’s totally up to you!

Christmas Nails

CND Shellac Polish

Limited Edition Christmas Polish – Ruby Ritz

CND Shellac Polish

Blushing Topaz layered over the top of a simple nude polish.

Oh my I LOVED my Christmas nails -I had Ruby Ritz then changed to Blushing Topaz, either way it had to be glitter for the festive season.

Valentine’s

CND Shellac Polish

Hot Pop Pink

In celebration of the month of love, I had to go for pink nails during February and I currently have Hot Pop Pink on my hands.

CND Shellac Pedicures

CND Shellac Polish

Electric Orange

I love pedicures and to be honest, I can’t foresee a time whereby I don’t get my feet spruced; even if I take the odd break from getting my hands done (because nails need some non-polish weeks from time to time), my feet are different. Over the autumn/winter they don’t really see the light of day in public, but in the summer they are out, out, out. Regardless, by having a CND Shellac polish on them I never have to worry about getting them out no matter what the month.

CND Shellac Polish

Denim Patch

Currently I have a beautiful deep, berry purple on my toes and I can see me getting them done again in the same shade… that being said my honeymoon is coming up and I need to think about what shades I want to rock in the US of A!

How do you guys like to treat yourself?

Until next time x

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Feminist and Married : Why Can’t Women be Feminist, Married & Share Their Husband’s Name?

Hey Sweeties,

I have some outrageous breaking news for you all today that frankly, might even Blow. Your. Minds. Are you ready? Okay, so you can be a feminist AND married. Oh. My. God! I know Sweeties, I know, this revelation will be news to many.

I thought it was something I should address on here because I have spoken about many things that are both feminist in topic, and from a feminist perspective and having been married for almost a year now, I did not want people still stuck in the dark ages to start accusing me of fraud. Nevertheless, yes my Sweeties, you can indeed be a feminist and married.

Feminist and married

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A Review of the NYX Lip Lingerie in Shade 02 Embellishment

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When NYX Cosmetics released into Boots stores across the UK last year, I waited an age before I finally tracked down a stand and thus only came across one recently on a trip after Christmas to the Westfield Shopping Mall in White City, London. Since then I have noticed that my local Boots store has finally been fitted with a stand so I will be taking a closer look at that soon.

I have a list of products I would like to try from NYX Cosmetics, but from the stand in White City, I could only really find the lip and face products, so I picked up the NYX Lip Lingerie in Embellishment, a lip liner, and one of the Soft Matte Lip Creams in shade Cannes, that I will review separately.

NYX Lip Lingerie in Embellishment

NYX Lip Lingerie in Embellishment

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The Blogosphere Valentine’s Tea Party at the Tropical Library, London

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On Saturday I attended the Blogosphere Valentines Tea Party hosted by Blogosphere magazine. A few weeks ago I randomly caught the tweet announcing the event and I jumped at the opportunity to purchase a ticket (for £15 which I thought was perfectly reasonable), and secure the date in my calendar.

It was also exciting following the #BlogosphereValentines tag on Twitter leading up to the event and connecting with fellow bloggers who were going; a great tip if you’re going to events alone like I do!

The Venue

The Blogosphere Valentine’s Tea Party was held at the Tropical Library in Lumiere London (SE1), a short walk from Southwark underground station. The building looked like any other on the street, but upon entering you walk up two flights of stairs before reaching the second floor where the party was being held.

I was warmly welcomed on arrival and I was glad of a coat rail as that would’ve seriously restricted my being had I had to have my coat and scarf over my arm all afternoon.

Blogosphere Valentines tea party

I was glad I arrived slightly before the 1pm kick off as it enabled me to see the room before it got filled with people, and it was a really pretty and inviting space.

Blogosphere Valentines tea party

Living Room goals!!

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