Reasons why an Interview is Stressful for Someone with Anxiety

Hey Sweeties,

At various points in life, you will recognise that change is one the horizon and it is time to get a new job. If only one could get a job from your credentials on paper alone, eh? I have written before about my top interview tips, and five questions you could ask at interview, as well as my advice for having a career in marketing. But there has been a gap until now identifying the reasons why an interview is stressful for someone with anxiety, and about applying those tips and advice I have shared previously, to somebody with anxiety… somebody just like me.

Rightly or wrongly, I go into an interview and treat it like a performance, a display of my best self demonstrating my personality and my capability for the role I am in contention for. The fact that I am a ball of insecurity on the inside; my throat drying after every answer to each question; every part of me wishing the performance to be over with and I can escape back into the security of my car. As it happens, to my mind there is only one interview that I would say went badly and that was right back after university when I was trying to get my break. I don’t lie in an interview, my ‘performance’ is my true self, but it is certainly a struggle to keep my anxiety at bay.

Reasons why an Interview is Stressful for Someone with Anxiety

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You like Hugh Hefner and Playboy? But aren’t you a Feminist? Yes

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I haven’t sat and written a proper chatty, opinion piece for ages, and before blogging become the ridiculous, high-quality editorial thing it is now, this is what I came into blogging to do; to write and debate, and provide my opinion on current topics and issues. Although what I am about to present will possibly outrage some people, that’s okay because a debate is good.

I have written so much on my feminist views, and how I view modern feminism (it’s even got its own category accessible from this blog’s navigation menu underneath ‘Girl Talk’ FYI) –

Feminist and married

You can’t define feminism as an emoji

Page 3, Playboy and questioning modern objectification

…to list just three.

If you follow me on any of my social channels such as my Twitter or Instagram, you will likely be aware that on Thursday I was pretty devastated about the passing of Hugh Hefner. But wait, Claire, aren’t you a feminist? Yes, I am.

Hugh Hefner and Playboy

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Four Ways I am Learning to Adopt a Zero Fucks Attitude

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Granted I have only been 30-years-old for not quite two weeks, but already I have noticed some changes in me. A significant shift is my willingness to adopt a zero fucks (excuse my explicit French) attitude about certain situations and people; only last week was it highlighted how I do not need excess shit in my life and it’s important that I learn to free myself from it.

What my Twenties Taught Me

I recently shared a post all about the life lessons of my twenties (here), but it’s something about getting through this decade that has taken me out of that period of time where I spent far too many hours concerning myself with what others think; life going forward is definitely about aiming to live more stress-free and finding a new personal confidence and inner peace. This is not to say that I won’t continue to get stressed, part of having stress is a sign that you care about whatever it is causing you aggro, and I am definitely a stress-head! I spent my twenties working my arse off trying to excel myself; getting through university, getting my marketing career progressed, learning who I am, trying to make more friends than enemies, pleasing others before myself… no wonder I am feeling tired right now!

Here are four ways I am going to learn to adopt a zero fucks attitude –

Zero fucks attitude

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Living in the moment, lessons learnt & other Reflections from my Twenties

Hey Sweeties,

On the eve of my 30th birthday, today is my final day as a woman in my twenties and while I am excited by the prospect of turning the page on a new chapter of life, equally I am kinda’ freaking out.

On reflection, my twenties have been amazing, a real roller coaster of experiences and emotions and I do not regret anything. Everything that I have seen, done, loved, lived, visited, worked, lost and found, has all contributed to the woman I am today. My twenties has been my time to get to know me, explore life, take different paths, and experience what the hell I want to, completely guilt free.

I would pour yourself a brew and get some snacks because if you have never been here before, you’re going to be here a while; and if you are a regular reader then you know how much I can write and this post is no different. Get comfy.

Living in the moment, lessons learnt & other Reflections from my Twenties

Life lessons from my twenties

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BBC Drama Three Girls & Sara Rowbotham for MBE

Hey Sweeties,

As regular readers and followers of ClaireySweetie, and/or any of my other social channels, there is no denying the fact that I am opinionated and do not shy away from topics others might be too weary to post about (General election 2017: Social media and pushing opinions; Too scared to speak out [against Trump]). Equally, I am passionate about doing good, particularly when it comes to the environment, and raising money for charity (like swimming across Weymouth Harbour on Christmas Day). I think it is important to put our voices to things that matter and there is a campaign I would really like your support in pushing.

BBC Drama – Three Girls

Back in May (2017), the BBC aired three-part drama, Three Girls, which covered the story about the Rochdale child sex abuse ring, and how authorities failed hundreds of young girls by not taking seriously their allegations of rape, believing them to be unreliable witnesses. Eventually, 12 British Pakistani men were brought to justice but new evidence continues to be investigated.

The drama was harrowing and if Twitter was anything to go by, many people –myself included- were emotionally distraught by what we saw.

So here’s what I would like your help with –

Sara Rowbotham - BBC Three Girls

Sara Rowbotham for MBE

Sara Rowbotham was the Sexual Health Worker who campaigned tirelessly for years to the authorities to take notice about what was happening in Rochdale to young girls, but no one listened. It was not until a few years later that the authorities acknowledged their failings and worked with Rowbotham and the girls to bring the gang to justice.

When viewers watched the final episode, we were all delighted that a positive result had been achieved and there were early calls for Sara Rowbotham to be publicly acknowledged for her work. Then, as the episode came to a close and the credits began to roll, viewers learned that following the case, understandably the stress of it all had had an impact on her, but horrifyingly, Sara was made redundant from her senior role. To say Twitter was outraged was an understatement and my own personal anger really took hold. But we can still do good. A campaign has been set up to get Sara Rowbotham awarded an MBE in the New Year’s Honours List and the more support we can get behind it, the better chance it has of succeeding. It takes 30 seconds of your time to click this link, sign the petition, and share it on.

Here’s that link again – http://you.38degrees.org.uk/petitions/sara-rowbotham-mbe

I will be happy to personally thank each and every one of you that lets me know you have signed the petition, either in the comments, or if you respond to my tweet about this post. Please let this campaign be a success.

Thank you x

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