You Can’t Define Feminism (as an Emoji)

Feminism as an emoji

Hey Sweeties,

Until I went to University, my awareness and knowledge of feminism was quite limited, I was only really aware of the suffragettes and the whole bra burning thing. So it wasn’t until I was 22-23 years old and studying for my degree that I learnt that feminism transformed (& dare I say progressed) in waves. But regular readers will be very well versed in my views and ideas on feminism and the movement we’re currently experiencing so I won’t repeat myself.

I have also touched upon my (male) colleagues at work who wind me up endlessly on things re feminism and their favourite topic is Caitlyn Jenner (here). However, while I participate in endless banter, despite my concerns that they assumed feminists to be one thing, they do acknowledge that feminism has moved on but to define it, or a feminist specifically, is hard.

In a separate discussion, one of my colleagues asked if I use emoji’s in blog posts and I said I didn’t –both in this one (except the occasional smiley face) and the blog I manage at work. Somehow he then asked me what emoji I would use for feminism and I said (again) that you can’t define feminism (& feminists) as one thing, hence how the idea for this post was sparked. And you can’t, can you? Feminism cannot be defined in any one emoji I have yet seen –now there’s a challenge if there ever was one!

Emoji’s aside, but keeping on the topic of the F-word, a week or two ago I read an article about how if women use the term ‘lovely’ and put x at the end of emails, we’re questioning our loyalty to feminism which is OUTRAGEOUS; language does not determine how feminist you are! I call you all ‘Sweeties’ within my posts, does that make me less of a feminist? Do I offend you all? Do you think less of me? I also sign off my posts with an ‘x’…again, does that change things and make you reinterpret what I say? For the record, I use ‘sweeties’ & sign off with a ‘x’ because I see it as a friendly kind of affection that I can easily spread and without knowing most of you on a personal level, I still want to talk to you with the same warmth as I would my closest friends. So we’re cool, right?

Anyway, some more food for thought and I would love to hear your opinions on the above; maybe you even have the ultimate feminist emoji?

Have a great week, lovelies 😉

Until next time x


Two Very Different Role Models Growing Up

Hey Sweeties,

I was thinking recently about role models and got to thinking about who inspired me most in my mid-late teens into my early twenties… and they couldn’t be any more different to each other.

Carrie Bradshaw 

Role Models -Carrie Bradshaw

I took two things from Carrie 1. the want to become a writer, 2. a love for high heeled shoes.  View Full Post


A Worrying Disney Princess Obsession

Disney princesses

Hey Sweeties,

A few thoughts for you today on my feelings about how I am slightly weary of Disney Princesses and how they seem to be inflicting a certain kind of ideology…  View Full Post


My Top 10 Most Inspirational Women

Most Inspirational Women

Hey Sweeties,

In celebration of International Women’s Day, I thought I would share with you my top 10 list of the women I find most inspiring. In these women, I find drive and determination to succeed, overcome obstacles, strength of character and their career success to date amongst other things. All of which I aspire to and seek myself to one day achieve. Age is irrelevant and my list is in no particular order.

  1. My Mum

(Not pictured) Needs no introduction or explanation, a woman’s first inspiration should always be her Mum and mine is no exception!

  1. Vanessa Vallely

The East-end girl done good! I first wrote about Vanessa a couple of weeks ago after I attended a work conference where she was invited as a guest speaker. For the low down, revisit that post here.

  1. Karren Brady

I love Karren and her autobiography is excellent! She tells you like it is and she writes how she speaks –to the point and I like that; I hate unnecessary fluff in conversation! For me, she is the ultimate woman to aspire to be like in business.

  1. Jennifer Saunders

I have always admired Jennifer, I love her comedy and sense of humour. It’s my dream to ultimately achieve her writing success.

  1. Lorraine Candy

I was lucky enough to meet Lorraine a couple of times last year at Elle Insider events and I am a huge fan of Elle Magazine (as you all know). I feel it is one of the few women’s publications that really get their audience and blend together the right content to achieve the right level of engagement while being relatable. For a woman with four young children that you would never think looking at her petite frame, I love how Lorraine actively champions being a mum and a successful Editor while being effortlessly stylish. I want to be her!

  1. Anna Wintour

I admire Anna Wintour on the basis that although I am not a reader of Vogue, I admire how despite many thinking she should step aside and let younger, fresher eyes takeover the magazine, she holds her ground. I have watched the September Issue several times and the one thing that stuck out at me immediately was when she said that when filling out her college application, her Dad told her to put down as her career ambition to be the Editor of Vogue… And she is!

  1. Zoella

If you have just said ‘who’ then you need to read my post (here) specifically I mean all the popular female YouTubers & Bloggers who have become their own boss and made their own success and for the most part, are still in their early twenties. Incredible!

  1. Emma Watson

The face of the HeForShe campaign, Emma has become quite the young activist championing the right and need for gender equality. Known originally for her acting, she has shown that she is so much more than the darling of Hollywood. She is the young woman’s role model!

  1. Rosie Huntington-Whiteley

Who doesn’t want to be Rosie right now?! I love how despite her incredible beauty, she has brains behind her looks that she uses to explore business ventures such as her collections with Marks & Spencer. I am seriously considering lopping my long locks off to match her enviable long bob. One for discussion another time I think! But in all seriousness, she’s another example of a young woman taking charge of her own career.

10. Lena Dunham

I am currently nose deep in Lena’s book, ‘Not that kind of Girl’ and I am really enjoying it! Similar to why I like Karren Brady, Lena tells it like it is but about life rather than business and I can completely relate. Not with everything mind, but the way she describes early boyfriends and relationship things are just so on point I just sit and giggle as I read. Her book aside, much like many of the women listed above, she too champions women’s rights and she uses this in her writing for film and television.

Who are your most inspirational women?

Until next time x


This Girl Can campaign by Sports England

This Girl Can

Hey Sweeties,

Call me late to the party for waiting until now to mention it (that’s blog scheduling for you!) but how great is the This Girl Can campaign by Sport England?

For those who haven’t seen it, here’s the advert currently crossing the air waves.


The most hilarious thing I have heard (on the radio) about this campaign is that this advert is sexist. SEXIST?! How on earth is this campaign sexist? It shows real women getting out there and doing their thing; it’s nothing other than fantastic. If this campaign used skinny framed, big boobed, highly attractive women in full makeup then you might have an argument. But it doesn’t. End of.

Through these Sunday Chat posts, I have spoken about confidence and about the benefits of doing something new amongst other things and I feel that the This Girl Can campaign is only but adding to this group of posts as well as the messages and advice I myself am trying to pass on to you, Sweeties.

(For a bit of context) Sport England following research, identified that there are 2 million fewer women than men doing sport/keeping active for fear of well… essentially not looking their best in front of others and feeling a bit self conscious which is crazy but as a woman who does exercise and keeps active, I can totally relate! Last spring/summer, I started going out for runs/jogs in the evenings  and where Ian and I used to live, I could do a really good circuit that took me round the back of the village; it was beautiful, scenic but more importantly, I could exercise away from the glare of others, it was private and I was alone.

As you all know I play hockey and this involves training once a week with a mixed group of people (men and women) and then a match at the weekends. I don’t worry about wearing no makeup as aside from the unattractiveness of makeup running down your face when you get hot and sweaty, mascara in your eyes owing to said sweating, stings like hell! My ‘fear’ is actually not performing well in front of others. I am better in matches because the adrenaline of the game takes over and you haven’t got time to think about anything except for the game at hand but in training, when it’s perfectly acceptable to make mistakes… that’s when I worry. Truth is, I don’t enjoy the games… well that’s a lie, I do enjoy the games and I love the training sessions, I just do a fantastic job of psyching myself out of them until the hour before. It’s ridiculous but at the moment I am just going through a stage of having an incredible lack of confidence in my abilities. I am also still finding my place within a new group of people and that’s always a factor with these things.

But every woman is different and ‘the fear’ that the campaign is trying to both raise and tackle will be different for everyone. Some may love gyms and don’t worry about sweating, but the thought of exercising alone is unthinkable and vice versa. For me, the thought of never playing hockey again fills me with dread so I put my confidence issues aside and just go for it and I think everyone reading this should do too!

Until next time x


30.01.2015: I have nothing against Company Magazine as I am sure they mean well but this kind of content from women’s publications drives me mad! It also goes almost completely against the above campaign! Working out is not about looking good while doing it; it’s ok to sweat and look a mess! I love their point regarding wearing waterproof mascara on the off chance you catch the attention of the Personal Trainer… because that is of course why women go to the gym. Man alive!

Company Magazine

Yes I commented back to them…!