Squad Goals & Why I don’t want to be in your Gang

Hey Sweeties,

I don’t think it’s just me to notice, but the media in 2016 was obsessed with inventing a million new buzz words that suddenly, and quite unconsciously, entered our everyday vocabulary. This also applies to trends and today I want to address this whole (girl) #squad bollocks that mostly seemed to attach itself to Taylor Swift and the like.

Taylor Swift alone I could write a whole blog post on. I love her music and while she is absolutely totally free to date and shag who she likes (21st Century 4th wave feminism n’all), the other half of me just thinks she shouldn’t flaunt it quite so much (because I’m married and nearly thirty which seems to have had an effect on how I  view certain behaviour).

Anyway.

Groups of girls/women can be intimidating which is why I have issue with the over use of the term ‘squad’. But then again, I have never really been a part of a large friendship group, always favouring and working better with smaller, more intimate friendships; but as someone who has moved around a lot, it is so much easier to befriend a couple of individuals, than it is to break into large established groups. Just saying.

What’s a girl squad?

A squad is essentially anything more than three people, and for the most part, it’s just a group of friends. But girl ‘squads’ really are intimidating if they contain powerful personalities. I mean, not to be disrespectful of my own kind but groups of women can be something to dread because if you’re on your own and you piss one of them off, it can be savage. Think back to the Ashley’s in hit children’s cartoon, Recess; and cult classic Mean Girls (such a good film!) where they dominated their respective playgrounds (as it were).

Girl Squads

Being your own best friend

I am a huge advocate for people, notably women, to learn how to do things on their own and the importance of being your own best friend (read my post on that here). I think if you have a close group of friends (your squad) and its a secure network then I think that’s lovely, but as someone that hasn’t really had that, I am just weary of how bashing around and attaching the word squad to everything can be a bit off putting to some people. Do you see what I mean?

How do you view (girl) squads?

Until next time x

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