Granted I have only been 30-years-old for not quite two weeks, but already I have noticed some changes in me. A significant shift is my willingness to adopt a zero fucks (excuse my explicit French) attitude about certain situations and people; only last week was it highlighted how I do not need excess shit in my life and it’s important that I learn to free myself from it.
What my Twenties Taught Me
I recently shared a post all about the life lessons of my twenties (here), but it’s something about getting through this decade that has taken me out of that period of time where I spent far too many hours concerning myself with what others think; life going forward is definitely about aiming to live more stress-free and finding a new personal confidence and inner peace. This is not to say that I won’t continue to get stressed, part of having stress is a sign that you care about whatever it is causing you aggro, and I am definitely a stress-head! I spent my twenties working my arse off trying to excel myself; getting through university, getting my marketing career progressed, learning who I am, trying to make more friends than enemies, pleasing others before myself… no wonder I am feeling tired right now!
Here are four ways I am going to learn to adopt a zero fucks attitude –
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On the eve of my 30th birthday, today is my final day as a woman in my twenties and while I am excited by the prospect of turning the page on a new chapter of life, equally I am kinda’ freaking out.
On reflection, my twenties have been amazing, a real roller coaster of experiences and emotions and I do not regret anything. Everything that I have seen, done, loved, lived, visited, worked, lost and found, has all contributed to the woman I am today. My twenties has been my time to get to know me, explore life, take different paths, and experience what the hell I want to, completely guilt free.
I would pour yourself a brew and get some snacks because if you have never been here before, you’re going to be here a while; and if you are a regular reader then you know how much I can write and this post is no different. Get comfy.
Living in the moment, lessons learnt & other Reflections from my Twenties
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It’s my birthday!! Today I am twenty-nine years old (young, whatever) and in this final year of my twenties, I have a few things I want to finally achieve, see and do before I reach my third decade –some serious, some silly, some just nice-to-haves. Some things are already in the calendar for me to tick off, but for the most part I need to spend the next fifty-two weeks making that time for myself to tick off everything else not yet scheduled or feel I have given enough attention to. I also have to acknowledge that all being well, this might be my last year of being able to be totally selfish with my time and money before another being occupies it. I know on some people’s thirty before thirty lists, starting a family is one of those things they want and it’s the same for me, I want children but I don’t want starting a family to become stressful or something I have to, ‘tick off’ achieving; it happens when it happens and that might be before I hit thirty, or it might not.
On that note, I think it’s important to remember and acknowledge how quickly things can change. Last year I wasn’t yet engaged but within the 12 months since I did get engaged and I’m now married. I know a lot of people see being single as a problem and while I can totally relate that being single can be an immensely lonely time for some, you also need to own that time for yourself. I talk about being selfish but that selfishness is now within the boundaries of marriage, your selfishness is still 100% yours. Your twenties are for finding out who you are and I certainly achieved this through exploring a couple of career options; living away from home around the UK pursuing those careers; my time at University and the years since. In my later adult life I have unfortunately had to deal with social anxiety making an appearance, but anxiety in adulthood, albeit a short spell, is very common. We become more conscious about things, and more stressed which all fundamentally takes its toll on the body and mind. I have written about my social anxiety here.
So, what to put on my list? I know many do a thirty before thirty bucket list but I like trying to aim for twenty-nine just to be different and to still honour my twenties which for the most part, has been an awesome decade of my life to live; let’s round it off with another incredible year!
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