Women’s fashion: Why what women wear IS an issue

Women’s fashion. One of the things I most love about this blog, and my writing in many ways, is how I don’t fear or attempt to dodge topics of conversation that might be on the controversial side.

Claireysweetie.com enables more in depth discussion about things personal to me, such as my struggles with (social) anxiety, but also on things like why I hate girl squads and other such things that come into the media and popular culture.

I like creating conversation, I like sharing my opinion. So today I have an opinion on something that is either going to have a lot of you explode at me in disagreement, or actually, you’ll agree with me and I of course hope it’s the latter.

Why what women wear is an issue 

First of all to clarify for the record: A woman can wear anything she likes. What someone wears does not define them and when I say (or suggest, or reference) ‘unwanted attention’ or, ‘the wrong kind of attention’ I am 100% absolutely categorically not talking about rape.

I am talking about being in a bar or a club, or maybe even walking down the street, and a young woman is getting pestered, or wolf whistled by a couple of blokes because quite possibly (but not definitely), what she is wearing is getting them all in a fluster.

For the most part this unwanted behaviour can be harmless and a sharp “fuck off” usually does the trick, but sometimes it doesn’t but that’s a man’s issue, not the woman’s. Okay?

However my argument here and the underlying truth is that (young) women still need to be careful or at least mindful, with their appearance in public, particularly when out on the town. I think designers behind women’s fashion need to look at the items they are creating, and the looks they are encouraging.

Remember this is the opinion of an almost thirty year-old.

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Young career woman: The six pieces of career advice to remember

As a young career woman building and navigating the highs and lows of my working life, I would have relished being given career advice that stretches beyond ‘find something you love doing’. I feel like I have spent so much energy enthusiastically going after a career I can be proud of, I am still  never truly sure what I am doing/have done has been the right thing.

Nowadays, women can do anything in the world of work and yet, the first thing to get sacrificed is our career when it comes to having children and raising a family.

But also the messages say that career women are too focused, too ambitious, or it goes the other way and we are made to feel inadequate if we don’t have lots of career aspirations. I’ve only been around 29 years but here’s the career advice I would share with my (slightly) younger self as a young career woman.

It’s okay to spend your twenties exploring multiple roles and industries 

It is no longer the norm to train in one thing and stick with it for the rest of your life like it was in the olden days. Nowadays, it’s encouraged to explore a few different roles and industries before you find what it is you’re good at/want to do.

As a young career woman, it’s also the norm to move on from one employer to the next every few years, particularly when you’re still building up your experience and network. But be sensible, show logic and focus in your journey rather than moving on for the sake of it or because you got bored. Do you have an interview coming up? Here’s my five tips on how to nail it.

Young career woman

It’s okay to complete as many or as little qualifications as you like 

As a young career woman, at 29 years old, I have: 9 (expired) GCSE’s; 3 A-Levels; 2 NVQs in Business Administration; a Dental Nurse qualification (National exam); a Bachelors degree in Media Communications; and a diploma in Copy Writing.

I just don’t think I’ll ever really shake off the feeling that I was never considered good enough at school, so I’ve spent the years afterwards getting myself qualified in everything I’ve pursued. But it’s not essential, a qualification shows you can apply yourself to something, experience demonstrates you can put your learning into practice.

As a young career woman, your twenties are definitely for getting yourself qualified in whatever you want to do before time and financial commitments prevent you from having that freedom. Recently got your A-Level results? This post is for you!

Young career woman

It’s okay to be selfish 

As a young career woman, no one else is going to give you an opportunity if you don’t put yourself forward/make yourself known, you need to think of number one (that’s you) and work out what it is you want and go and get it.

I know it’s difficult to make moves and things when you have a partner, or a mortgage etc. but where possible, don’t be afraid to move to a new location for your dream job, and it takes time to climb the salary ladder so be prepared to start low, but climb high. This day and age, you can do and be anything.

Office workplace outfit

It’s okay to be intimidated by highly successful women 

I don’t mean this negatively, when I read about successful women who have climbed to the top of the career ladder before I’ve even got out of bed in the morning is inspiring, but it’s also intimidating.

We have to champion our female leaders and those young women who have made a name for themselves in the business world, but it’s okay to be a little overwhelmed by them too.

I’ve worked my damnedest to get to where I am now and while for many that might not look significant, but if you’re familiar with my Graduate experience you’ll know how long it has taken me to find my footing.

You and I have probably worked as hard as those women we read about, but their journey has propelled them further, quicker, but that doesn’t make them better.

Young career woman

It’s okay to want a family 

It’s amazing how in the 21st Century, women fundamentally still have to chose between being a mother, or having a career. I say fuck society and do both if you want to.

But it’s okay to choose motherhood and spend some time raising a family because that’s still a crucial role to play. I am at that point where having a family beckons on the horizon but so does my want to still do well and do more in my career first.

I also have concerns about what will happen to my job once I go on maternity leave; will it still be there several months on for me to take back or will I begin a frustrating period of life whereby I am punished for having a family? Who knows.

But from what I’ve been told, by both men and women, is that you can’t ever know what life will look like managing a family and trying to hold down a career. If you want children, have them, you’ll make it work and there’s no point delaying it because you’re worried about the what ifs.

Fiorelli bag

Have your cake and eat it 

Because you can.

Young career woman

What I am wearing: Shirt – Dorothy Perkins; black leggings – ASOS; Shoes – Dorothy Perkins; Bag – Fiorelli.

What career advice would you pass on to your younger self?

Until next time x

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