Granted I have only been 30-years-old for not quite two weeks, but already I have noticed some changes in me. A significant shift is my willingness to adopt a zero fucks (excuse my explicit French) attitude about certain situations and people; only last week was it highlighted how I do not need excess shit in my life and it’s important that I learn to free myself from it.
What my Twenties Taught Me
I recently shared a post all about the life lessons of my twenties (here), but it’s something about getting through this decade that has taken me out of that period of time where I spent far too many hours concerning myself with what others think; life going forward is definitely about aiming to live more stress-free and finding a new personal confidence and inner peace. This is not to say that I won’t continue to get stressed, part of having stress is a sign that you care about whatever it is causing you aggro, and I am definitely a stress-head! I spent my twenties working my arse off trying to excel myself; getting through university, getting my marketing career progressed, learning who I am, trying to make more friends than enemies, pleasing others before myself… no wonder I am feeling tired right now!
Here are four ways I am going to learn to adopt a zero fucks attitude –
Being comfortable in my own skin
This has to be number one, if you don’t believe in yourself and have confidence in who you are, then how can you possibly elevate yourself out of a situation to know it’s not worth your time or energy? I know myself really well, partly that has come from learning how to be my own best friend which my twenties allowed to finely tune, and I know that I have nothing more to prove either to others, or myself.
Not finding other people intimidating
Okay, so firstly I have to highlight that I still find myself often gripped with social anxiety and I struggle with and in crowds of people, and with individuals that I am unfamiliar with. But this is okay. The situation means I am anxious, but I don’t find the people themselves intimidating.
When it comes to seniority, at the end of the day we are all human and while I respect anyone that has achieved a senior position, even if they are younger than me, it doesn’t make them better, far from it. By being able to give zero fucks means I can stand up for myself in front of anyone… or at least learn to, particularly when confronted.
Not being Jealous
More so in my early twenties than my later twenties, I would look at friends and colleagues and find things I wish I either had or wanted myself to be more like, but that’s okay when you are growing up and learning about yourself; you want to develop parts of yourself in line with things that you admire in others. At age 30, I have many things to be glad and thankful for and this is only going to get better, so I really have nothing to envy in others.
In the words of Shania Twain: “So you’re Brad Pitt? Well, that don’t impress me much!”
Oh man, this is so relevant and a big contributor to stress, I am so pleased that many bloggers are promoting this within their own content and I am going to continue the message right here, right now.
If you scroll through your social feeds and find a few people consistently posting things that raise your blood pressure, mute, unfollow and even unfriend them. Don’t think about it, just do it. I respect a difference of opinion and I actually think the social world needs to be more accepting of that still, but when those opinions are pushed onto me/others, then those people need removing from feeds. I just do not need petty shit and stress in my life anymore.
Social feeds are mostly 90% highlight reels so if there’s stuff in yours that you don’t want to see, don’t; and if there are people that you no longer like but you’re worried about being seen to unfriend (particularly if it is a colleague), mute them instead. Life is far too short to care about things and people that are not worth your energy.
What other tips can you suggest to adopting a zero fucks attitude?
Until next time xFollow