I don’t know about you, but I am really uneasy with seeing pictures of children across my social media feeds (Facebook, Twitter and Instagram mostly), and even within blogs to be honest. While Facebook arguably is a public space shared between ‘friends’, liked posts can still appear in feeds of people you don’t know because they are loosely acquainted with one of your friends. But still, as much as I love seeing baby photos, you’re putting your kids on the internet and I think people (parents) should start being a bit more cautious. Look, we all get those urges to share that ridiculously cute snap of our children or our friends’ children, but we need to take a step back and think about what we’re doing.
My Problem with seeing your Children online
The internet became dangerous when paedophiles learnt how to access images, and while that is of course a concern deeply rooted at the base of this post and my worries, I think I am still allowed to feel uneasy without addressing that particular fear. Having children of my own is the next step for Ian and I and we have already agreed, that while it’s fun to share photos announcing new arrivals, our children will not be shared online. A snippet of their cute little hands or feet, fine but faces, no. Fundamentally, it comes down to however much you think you have put those privacy settings in place, you can’t ever properly be sure of who is accessing those images and videos of your children.
On an almost daily basis, I thank the Gods that social media came into play after I had left school as there’s no way I could deal with my changing body, peer pressure and keeping up my online profiles and all the other pressures that teenagers must face today. How many of them are on social media because they want to and not just fulfilling a social expectation? I guess for teens, it’s the norm to live life online and to be fair, they are unlikely to know any different, but does that mean they still understand what they are consenting to when they post another selfie of themselves with their friends, or a naïve shot that they think is playful, but in the wrong hands is perceived as sexual?
These days, I genuinely applaud anyone that conceals pregnancy and big life updates away from social media. While sometimes I get a bit frustrated with not being able to see a picture of someone’s new baby because they selfishly have decided to not post one on Facebook, I do equally admire their discipline to not conform just because everyone expects it. But also, just because I am ‘friends’ with someone but do not wish them happy birthday, does that give me a right to share in other aspects of their life? Of course not.
Ultimately, what this post comes down to, is my un-comfortability with oversharing online but this does mostly centre on the fact that too many people share images of their children across the web. I love to know that you’ve had a wonderful day at the beach, and it’s great to see little Billy at 6 months, but I don’t need a whole album of your kids enjoying ice cream and playing, or tons of cute pictures of Billy looking adoringly into the camera lens, those moments should be for you and your immediate family to relish.
Am I just being old fashioned or do I have a point, guys?
Until next time x